The patterns you bring to a relationship were learned somewhere. They can be unlearned.

Relationships are where I do some of my strongest work. Whether you’re navigating conflict with a partner, the slow drift of a long marriage, a breakup you can’t move past, or the same argument recurring with different people — the work is the same at its core: understanding the patterns you bring to relationships, where they came from, and how to change them.

My training is systemic and psychodynamic — the two traditions built specifically for understanding people in relation to others. That means we don’t just manage this week’s conflict; we look at the pressures underneath it — the expectations, history, and dynamics that shape how you and the people close to you relate. A lot of this comes back to attachment: the way you learned to give and receive closeness early on tends to show up again in how you handle conflict, distance, and intimacy as an adult. We look at your attachment style directly — how it drives what you need, what you fear, and how you connect emotionally and physically with a partner.

I also work with people wrestling with commitment — whether to stay in a relationship, whether to get married, whether to have children, or how to make the big decisions that shape a life together. These are some of the hardest calls a person makes, and it helps to think them through with someone who isn’t invested in a particular outcome.

I see individual adults only, not couples. You don’t need a partner in the room to do this work — clients often find that when one person genuinely shifts their side of a pattern, the pattern itself can’t survive.

This work suits people who are willing to look at their own contribution, not just their partner’s. If that’s you, we’ll do serious work together.